Thursday, August 13, 2009

A stronger woman.

Today I was so proud of myself.

I had a rather unpleasant encounter with someone that I've struggled to be around for quite some time. Understand that I can get along with just about anyone, but some people get under my skin, and it about drives me up a wall just to be in the same room as them.

Today - I stuck up for myself. I said what was on my mind. I was honest. I didn't pull any punches. I didn't sugar coat anything, and it felt so darn good.

There are parts of my personality that have changed since I became a mom. It seems like I've got confidence in areas of my life where there didn't used to be any.

I used to just play nice all the time, sweep things under the rug, and let things fester instead of facing them head on.

But not anymore. Today I faced a psycho hose beast (thank you, Wayne's World, for wonderful phrase), and I came out a stronger woman.

As I drove home at the end of my day and reflected on my courageous encounter, and I was thinking to myself, "Well, I'll be darned. I totally grew and gave BIRTH to human being. I survived 9 hours of labor unmedicated (before receiving an oh-heck-YES-it-was-so-good epidural). I can do ANYTHING."

Well, not anything. I still can't swim, and I won't eat bugs and all that nasty stuff they do on some of those reality TV shows, but seriously. It's like I just don't take crap anymore. And if anyone tries to mess with me, I'm just not going to let them get away with it.

Even though there are definitely areas I struggle like heck with, I really feel like becoming a mother just brought about a part of me that was always there, but just couldn't find the courage to come out.

Yes. Yes. I pushed a kid out my hoo ha and I'm a stronger, more confident woman because of it.

In what ways are YOU more confident since you became a mom? Not a Mom? Tell us how you've become more confident in your life.


Allyson said...

So cool! I'm so glad you stood up for yourself. It's hard, but once you get past that first hurdle of self-doubt, anything is possible! WooHoo!

I became more confident in my opinions and really I don't have time for people that just aren't worth it. Life is too short...gotta surround yourself with people that you love and that love you back.

Happy Thursday!

April said...

Good for you sweety!

Lisa Anne said...

Good for you. In the past 4 years I've become a stronger person too. I think I have learned to be content with myself and who I am. I no longer worry about what other people think of me. My rule of thumb is, I have no right to judge anyone and therefore no one has a right to judge me. I call it like i see yet, yet I know when to hold my tongue. Sometimes the small battle is not worth a larger war.

I think this all comes with age and experience. I look back and can honestly say what was I thinking!

blueviolet said...

I'm glad you gave her what she has long since had coming! I'm pretty laid back but once in a while and it's unpredictable, something will set me off enough to stand up and put a stop to it. :)

Dani said...

Me? Well... I think I've grown because my children teach me. You should drop by and read the post I just wrote about this actually at Dani's Drop. :) It seems your blog is always right on what I was thinking about right then. :)

Kelly said...

I am more confident in my abiltites. I never thought in a million years that I would be able to endure the PAIN of childbirth, but who knew that would be the EASY part! Ha. Being a mom has definitely made me stop and think about who I surround myself with and what impact they will have on my daughter.

Kelly said...

Oh yeah, and I don't put up with BS. i just don't have the time or the energy for it!

Molly said...

Good for you!
I didn't push my kid out my hoo ha, but still think he has made me stronger! The need to be strong and stand up for my little guy makes me do it more for myself. I have learned to be a little more needy and say no sometimes. It's awesome.
FYI, I can't swim either, even though I lived on the ocean for 10 years!

the co-pilot said...

Boo! No details? Come on! Let's hear all about it!

I don't even have a hoo ha to push something through, but since I've become a father, I have really developed in talking to people in small talk. I had the hardest time thinking of a conversation starter before Aidan was born, but now, I'm like, "Nice weather. Wanna hear what my kid just learned to do?" It's awesome!

Elizabeth said...

Yeah you! I have had issues in the past with some pretty low self-esteem which restulted in letting a few people walk all over me. NOT anymore! It feels so good to stand up for yourself doesn't it?!

Deb said...

you go, girl! i am so proud of you... i didn't really get that brave until i turned 40, so you are definitely ahead of the game!

Becky said...

I am lacking in the confidence department, as my husband so-kindly reminded me on Sunday when he asked me where it went. Lots of things added up to destroy it, but through quilting and blogging kindess, I hope I am building it back up a little at a time. Mess with my girls though, and I turn a bit into a momma bear! Why is it easier to stand up for them then for myself? Not sure.

Jenners said...

Good for you! I do think motherhood gives you confidence because you have to be the one to protect, teach and nurture a little life and how can you do that without confidence? Of course, it takes about a year or so to build that confidence (at least in my case). That first year, I remember thinking "OK. I kept him alive another day. Whew."